Love may make the world go round, but impossible love makes it tilt. Right or wrong, ’the heart wants what it wants’ and an impossible love leads us into places we had no idea existed, places the ego would love to avoid and the psyche rejoices in visiting. Like Romeo and Juliet, Tristan and Iseult, and other legendary lovers, we find ourselves involved in something huge, a grande passion, an amour fou, a tragic romance, with all the accompanying extremes of highs and lows, ecstasy and despair, paradise found, taboos broken and betrayals committed. In short, impossible loves are not nice and they are usually not appropriate. But they are not mundane either. So what is it that pulls us out of our everyday world, into that ‘wrong love with the wrong person in the wrong place’? Is there any meaning to it all? We need to ask because unlike our lovers of legend, most of us have to go back to ordinary life, pick up the pieces and try to make some sense of our experience. Join us for an evening with Jan Bauer to explore and discuss these questions of love’s mysterious chaotic mystery, all the while knowing we will never be able to unveil it all. It’s a mystery. And another question… is it possible to live an impossible love not just in a romantic situation but with a place, an object, or another being?
Jan Bauer, author of Impossible Love: Or Why the Heart Must Go Wrong and Women and Alcoholism, is a Jungian analyst in private practice in Montreal. She holds degrees from Zürich, Boston, and Paris and has taught in Tunisia as well as the University of Montreal. She has served as chair of Admissions as well as Training Director for the Inter-Regional Society of Jungian Analysts. Bauer is currently President of the Association of Jungian Psychoanalysts of Quebec.